With lockdown once again rearing its ugly head, couples everywhere are having to face the reality of long-distance. Myself included. And there are no two ways about it. Long-distance relationships SUCK. Now I don't know about you, but I'm not one for pity parties. Life's too damn short and I'd much rather try and see the funny side of things. So without further ado, here are just a few of my long-distance expectations vs reality.
TW: Pictures of me ugly crying.
1. Becoming a strong independent woman
Now we all like to think we're the Destiny's Child of long-distance relationships. A strong and ♫ independent women ♫, and in my case free of that awful thing you call a man. But we can't always be Miss Independent, sorry Ne-Yo. The reality is we miss them and we cry about it and that's okay! But don't cry for too long though...be a bad bitch not a sad bitch.
2. Finding a newfound appreciation for the time you do spend together
They say that to truly appreciate how much your significant other means to you, it helps to spend time away from them. Mundane activities such as going to the shops together will then become the most exciting thing in the world because at least it means you're spending time with them...right?
3. Strengthening your communication skills
Being long-distance means you have nothing to build your relationship with but words. I may fancy myself a virtuoso when it comes to these magical things, capable of crafting achingly beautiful messages about how much I love and appreciate my SO blah blah blah. But the reality is, you seldom find yourself writing these messages (except when you've "accidentally"consumed a whole bottle of wine..). Instead, you end up chatting about how you've done sweet F-all, all damn day. And again, that's okay.
*For street-cred reasons, these messages are NOT ours.
4. Being a care-free, totally non-jealous girlfriend
Distance can certainly do strange things to your imagination. It can force you to confront those awful insecurities that convince you that your loving, totally-committed and loyal boyfriend is back home slagging you off in the boys' group chat about how needy you're being. Completely ridiculous right! Now we can't always be calm and collected queens. Sometimes we get a little insecure...and again, that's totally fine. We're in a lockdown remember, he's probably just playing Call of Duty and wondering how many times a week it's appropriate to masturbate...
5. Having a weekly virtual date night
We all miss date night. Getting dressed up and going out for dinner seems to be something you did in a long-forgotten past-life. But there is no reason why you can't still do that long-distance and in a pandemic, right? I don't know about you but I fully convinced myself that once a week, I'd put some make-up on and have a virtual date night with my boyfriend...let's all laugh together. The reality is we FaceTime a few nights a week and I probably look like Hagrid's long lost sister most the time. But that's chill, under-eye bags are very much in at the moment, or so I've heard...
So whether you're a long-distance relationship queen, a wine-guzzling, meme-sending, mess like myself or currently lucky enough to be living with your SO, I hope things are peachy. It may suck if you can't see them now but it won't always be that way! Lockdown will end and you shall once again be reunited. I can practically smell those long summer nights drinking beers in a pub garden...remember, love is enduring and more importantly, so are you!
I mean they do look sort of similar to be fair...
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